The Grateful Mama: Help

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Help

"I get by with a little help from my friends."

John Lennon and Paul McCartney

I need your advice. I'm entering my blog in a 'Parents Canada' magazine contest, and I can only submit one post. Do you have a favourite 'Grateful Mama' post? I feel too close to the content to choose objectively, so I'd really appreciate your feedback. Don't put too much thought into it, just let me know if there's a post that stands out in your mind.

If you haven't figured out how to leave a comment on my blog, (or you don't wish to share your thoughts with everyone,) feel free to email me at thegratefulmama@gmail.com.

Now, I should apologize if you're disappointed with this post; I realize that it's all business and no pleasure. For your enjoyment, I'll leave you with a couple of words that Pip has recently added to her vocabulary: 'nexterday' and 'lasterday.' Apparently 'yesterday' and 'tomorrow' weren't cutting it for her. Makes sense to me.

Thank you for continuing to read my blog. I'm soooooooooooo grateful that you're out there!

I hope you enjoy nexterday's post.

5 comments:

AnonymousJune 3, 2009 at 7:07 PM
We eagerly look forward to each entry on your blog, Karen, and think it's wonderful that you're entering the contest. We've enjoyed them all. One that stays with us is 'To Dance', but we enjoyed a good laugh with 'Poof'.
Best wishes!
Wayne & Diane
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Bethany PearceJune 4, 2009 at 11:17 PM
Hello! I was just meeting with some "geeks" tonight because I'm starting a blog in the comox valley this fall. Leaf told me about you. I REALLY want to meet with all the other bloggers out there so we can start networkinig with each other... especially if our goals are to get more readership. anyway... i don't see an email address on here so I hope you get this comment and contact me :) I've been blogging for personal reasons for the last few years - so the link on this comment will take you to that blog. My new one isn't up yet! (shhhh... secret!)
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AnonymousJune 5, 2009 at 8:41 PM
I have enjoyed so many but Little Star is a favorite, as is Labels and Poof. Keep up the good working sharing your insights in such an entertaining way. Good luck Karen.
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KarenJune 8, 2009 at 12:49 PM
Thanks Wayne and Diane for your suggestions...I really appreciate your support and I'm thrilled that people who aren't necessarily my 'target audience' are still finding something entertaining in my posts. Thanks so much!

Anonymous, I think I may go with 'Little Star'...it's one of my faves as well. Thank you for the feedback!

Looking forward to connecting with you Bethany!
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AnonymousJune 19, 2009 at 3:33 PM
Hi Karen...Jan here!

I was just catching up on your latest entries, still loving them all! A wondeful thought crossed my mind as I was reading your birthday entry. As Mother's we all love the stories, wisdom and moral support that your blog provides, but I just realized that it is a journal of love for your two adorable daughters. I can olnly imagine them reading about your feelings and thoughts when they are old enough, and having a window in to your soul when they are themselves Mothers....beautiful. Keep writing! Have a great week-end.
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My Teacher Hat

Consider the difference between punishment and discipline. To me, punishment involves an unrelated, often arbitrary penalty for some type of infraction. Discipline involves setting logical consequences for actions.

As a teacher, I was always encouraged to use discipline as opposed to punishment, and it worked.

Step One: SET THE PERAMETERS

It's preferable if you can set the consequences ahead of time instead of 'in the moment.' Think of the behaviours that you are working on with your child right now. One might be cleaning up toys. If you ask your child to clean up a toy and she doesn't, a logical consequence would be that the toy is removed for a period of time, (let's say one day,) and your child doesn't get to play with it.

Step Two: COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILD

Sit your child down and discuss 'the new rule' during a neutral time when everybody's happy. Talk about the consequence and make sure that it is understood. I also like to give kids ONE WARNING; they deserve a reminder before the consequence is imposed.

Step Three: COMMUNICATE WITH CAREGIVERS

Consistency is the KEY with discipline, so be sure to get all of your child's caregivers on board. It helps to keep the consequences really SIMPLE so that everyone can follow them. You could even talk through a possible scenario:

First ask 'small person' to clean up her blocks. If she does it right away, go over the top complimenting her for taking such good care of her things. If she doesn't do it, remind her of the consequence. "Small Person, if you don't clean up your blocks, they will be taken away and you won't get to play with them for a whole day." (Notice how I didn't say, "I will take them away"....keep it neutral.) If she still doesn't clean them up, then take them away immediately.

Step Four: BE FIRM AND CONSISTENT

Once you've set a consequence, don't back down and make exceptions...stand your ground! You've put a lot of thought into the consequence and you believe in the values you are teaching your child, so stick to it! Don't think you're doing your child any favours by backing down. Your kids will respect you more in the long run if you model strength of character.

Step Five: EVALUATE

After the consequence has been put in place for awhile, reflect upon whether or not it is working. Is the desired behaviour improving? If not, re-think your consequence. Discipline is a process, and different consequences work for different children.

Pip's Bookshelf

The Mysterious Tadpole by Steven Kellogg
If you get this book, be sure to buy the 25th Anniversary Edition (2002). It's WONDERFUL! Louis gets a birthday gift from his Scottish uncle-a tadpole. It becomes clear, after a short time, that the tadpole is no ordinary pet. The story is fun, and the illustrations have so much detail that you continue to discover new things long after the twentieth reading. This is a book that Pip keeps returning to, even after a few months of not reading it at all. Great for kids up to age 7 or 8.

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